Friday, 14 August 2015

How to Spot a Dating Con Man

Dating and meeting new people can be a lot of fun, but you must always keep your wits about you and look out for signs that may indicate that things are not quite right and you might be dating a con man. While the majority of men you meet will be genuine and honest, there are unfortunately some who are not and will try and scam you out of money.

Here are some tips in how to spot a dating con man:

He seems too good to be true. A con man has a knack of creating very attractive personas in order to make you fall in love with him very quickly. He may describe himself as a very wealthy businessman who has at last found someone who understands him or a down-to-earth single dad who has found his soul mate. Or he may say that he is a policeman, teacher, lawyer or other professional person in a position of trust and respect. They are very clever at crafting believable situations that lower your guard in order to gain your trust so that they can ask you for money as time moves on.

If someone claims to have fallen in love with you too quickly, take a step back and consider the situation. He may be absolutely genuine, but make sure you proceed with caution before you get in too deep and look out for any other suspicious signs.

He wants to move too fast. When you meet someone new, whether it is in person or online, you need to take time to get to know each other slowly. If he declares his undying love for you soon after meeting and starts calling you by a pet name, be wary. Con men are very good at making you feel as though you are the special one they have been looking for all their life and may pressure you into getting married or moving in together. You may feel flattered, but be realistic and insist that he takes things more slowly.

He asks for personal information. Con men can be pretty clever at getting the information they need to get their hands on your money. He may subtly ask about where you bank or could ask to have a look at your driving license. He might offer to do you a favour and pick up some cash for you from the ATM using your card. Identity theft is pretty easy once you've got hold of the right information, so make sure you keep this sort of information to yourself until you have got to know him really well.

He asks for money. A con man is very good at coming up with reasons for needing money. He may suddenly have an emergency where he needs cash immediately, such as his pay check hasn't come through and he needs to pay his rent otherwise he'll be evicted or a family member needs emergency treatment that needs paying for. He may convince you that it is just a loan to tide him over until the money comes through, but whatever the situation, you should never, ever give anyone any money unless you have known them for a very long time and know that you can trust them completely.

He disappears regularly. A man who disappears for days or weeks at a time is invariably up to no good. It is quite likely that he is leading a double life and may have a wife and family elsewhere. If this happens, especially around holiday times, then be extremely cautious.

The world is full of all types of people, most of whom are decent, law-abiding citizens, but there are those who take advantage of vulnerable women and cheat them out of lots of money, so make sure you follow my tips on how to spot a dating con man and do not fall for their charms.

I have 20 years in the dating industry having set up and run my own dating agency in my local area. I am now concentrating on writing and am committed to helping women achieve success in the dating game. I have written a number of eBooks which you can view on my website including my latest one "The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love with a Real Man in the Real World."

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What Is The Best Way To Treat A Woman On A First Date?

Is this your first time when you are dating a woman? Are you nervous on a first date and don't know how to start your communication with a girlfriend? You are worried about the behavior of your girlfriend and thinking to make it a wonderful day of the first date. Our first date advice will definitely help you to make it a memorable a day of your life with your girlfriend.

Prepare Yourself For The First Date

The first thing you must do is to relax yourself before you go for dating to your girlfriend. There are lots of methods to get yourself relaxed like listening music, watching movies, doing light exercises and yoga, and singing your favorite song. You have to groom your personality and should go on dating well prepared. Taking a warm bath, getting a good hair style and wearing nice clothes will make lasting impressions on the first date. Prepare a list of questions that you want to discuss with your girlfriend to engage your girlfriend into meaningful discussions and avoid confusion.

Choose A Place That Is Familiar To You

Don't go unplanned on the first date. You must choose a restaurant that you are familiar with and had already tasted the food. You can order your favorite food at the restaurant and let your girlfriend serve good quality and delicious food. Most of the girls are really conscious about the food when dating with men.

Greet Her With Gift

Everyone loves to receive gifts, especially women. You don't need to buy an expensive gift for the girlfriend. A pack of chocolates or flowers work well for most of the girls in the world. Just present your gift in a courteous and polite manner that will help you to win the heart of your girlfriend. There are lots of affordable gifts that can be sent to the girlfriend on a first date. It could be a small stuffed teddy bear, a deodorant or something unique that you like.

Communicate Freely

Don't hesitate to talk to your girlfriend on the date and ask whatever you want to talk about. However, make sure that you don't make any bluff with your girlfriend because it can spoil your image on the first date. Make an eye contact on the date and be confident in expressing your views during the conversation.

Ask About Her Life

This is the most important question you need to ask the girlfriend. The majority of women trust men who talk about the personal lives of the women. Asking about the family, siblings, interest, hobbies and careers will make you a decent guy to hang with and your girlfriend will feel secure in your company.